A group of women that we particularly honor and celebrate is
the VVF women. Vesicovaginal fistula (VVF) is a conditional usually caused by
an obstructed and prolonged childbirth. The complication arises from a cutoff circulation to the vesicovaginal
wall. This causes cell death,
making holes develop between the birth canal and bladder or rectum, and leads
to incontinence. In other
words, after carrying a child for 9 months, going through an agonizing labor
(sometimes lasting days), and losing the child (almost always happens with this
condition), the woman is also left with a humiliating condition in which she is
smelly and constantly wet. In
their society, the condition is very shaming, leaving them ostracized, shamed,
rejected, beaten, and abandoned by family and friends. They lose all their dignity and hope. The
“Dress Ceremony” is the celebration for the women who had a successful surgery
to reverse this condition. It is a time to celebration the women’s physical, spiritual,
and emotional healing.
There are moments on the ship, when we look at patients and
the giant smile on their face makes it clear that there is joy just beaming out
of them. They are glowing, full of
hope and happiness, healed and restored.
It is such a new feeling to them that they are also bewildered and
unsure that this is not just a dream, but they stand strong now and desire to
share their story…
(At the “Dress Ceremony”)
One of the patient women makes her way to the front to speak
to us about her experience. The
nurses have adorned her in a beautiful dress in the traditional manner with
headdress and jewelry. She
radiates and is absolutely beautiful. She has her hands lifted high in the air, her eyes glowing
and raised to the ceiling, and she sings “Alleluia, Praise be to God!”
She shares how she was so excited to have another child;
however, after being in labor for 5 days, fear and anxiety replaced that joy. Due
to the gravity of the complications, she lost the child and ended up in the
hospital. She actually then ran
away from the hospital because she knew she could not afford the care. In her particular case, her husband
actually passed away while she was at the hospital too. Although, she was
leaking and completely depressed, the elders in her village still encouraged
her to remarry, but she refused and ran away. She stayed near a relative, but she was still an outcast
there. She lived in a bush, was
beaten up by adolescence in the village, mocked and scorned, all because she
was leaking urine. After about 10
years, she returned to her village when she heard news that her eldest daughter
passed away. When she returned,
the villagers scorned her, saying her condition and disobedience to become
remarry caused her daughter to pass away.
They tell her she is cursed and should not live.
All the women share a similar case of pain and devastation,
of rejection and humiliation. Some
lived a few years with the condition, some lived 20 years. But now their ail is alleviated, and
they are healed. Not only are they physically healed, but in their eyes you can see a new person, one of confidence,
dignity, and strength. With hands lifted up, they thank God for His grace and
healing power and declare the glory of His Name. They praise Him for the love and mercy they received. These women are absolutely beautiful
and shining inside and out.
Be Blessed!
Psalm 103: 1-5
Praise the LORD, my
soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the LORD, my soul, and forget not all his benefits –
who forgives all yours sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life
from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your
desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.